Chivalry is dead, but what about courtesy?

So, we’ve all heard the expression that chivalry is dead, but what about courtesy and consideration?

I don’t usually write about things I feel I am “whining” about in my life, but this has been on my mind the past few weeks.  A couple of instances have arisen recently where I felt as though people were being really inconsiderate.  Nothing life shattering, but later felt either left out, hurt or holding the bag, so to speak.

Instantly, I feel like an afterthought or that I’m thought less of.  And usually, when I am disappointed, I try to decide whether or not I’ve had some unrealistic expectation.  Since, that is where I feel that ultimately disappointment comes from. I like to make sure I’m living in reality as much as possible.

But, am I considerate and courteous?  I would really like to think so.  Often I would like to think that I would like to have the opportunity to make a decision about whether or not I would enjoy something.  Not have someone else decide for me that I wouldn’t enjoy it and not even extend the invitation.  Or how they would feel if they were treated the same way they just treated me.

I’ve talked about my sharp tongue.  And boy, I realize that I have misspoken to people.  But, I feel like following that up with an apology or meaningful conversation is better than not even thinking of someone at all or how they would love to just feel appreciated. 

In remedy of this occurring in my life, I’m going to make a conscious effort to not get caught up in the drama of it all.  I’m not going to keep a mental list and then use it against someone the first chance I get.  

Instead, I’m going to focus on making sure I’m living up to my own expectations.  Making that extra effort to send a thank you to someone, or reaching out to a friend that I know might need it.  Not saying, “Oh, I really should do that…” 

Maybe it’s not enough to have good intentions.  If courtesy and consideration are dying, perhaps I can do my part to keep it alive, by putting it back out into the world.  And as for chivalry?   I’m sure I’ve seen it around.