Tsk! Tsk!
Someone has been absent from their blog for nearly a month!
Oh, I've been hanging around but I haven't posted anything new. I hope you've been enjoying the re-runs I've been running in the meantime.
I've been thinking a lot about anger, frustration and disappointment. And honestly, feeling it, too.
It's easy to be disappointed when you realize you've had a certain expectation for something that may not have been altogether realistic. It's easy to be frustrated when you find yourself in a situation over and over and the cycle will only continue until you say,"STOP!"
Whether personally, professionally or otherwise, it's difficult to realize that only YOU allow (or not allow) for patterns of behavior to occur in your life. While you can't control how others act, you can control your interaction with them.
This includes speaking up when you are uncomfortable with a situation. Stand up and say, if even internally, "What in the world is going on here?!" It also begs evaluating, "What kind of person would behave this way?!" And,"WHY would I associate with them?!"
You don't even necessarily have to forgive people, but you can certainly get some perspective to feel sorry for those who are repeating the same patterns of behavior over and over, having the same types of relationships end over and over, or being subject to alienation over and over.
Can you imagine living in the movie Groundhog Day your entire life?
This is exactly what some people do.
It's SAD really. Sad to watch, sad to be a part of.
I know that I am here on this planet having a human experience to learn from each and every thing I experience, because the most negative have revealed some pretty heavy stuff to me.
In Groundhog Day, it's not until Bill Murray's character learns the correct lessons that he can truly move on. The same can be said for all of our lives.
Sometimes, through all of the negativity. it's hard to see the patterns that are occurring and what possible lesson could be learned. But, never give up! You may have missed something somewhere, something you weren't ready to hear, admit or see.
I want more and it's not going to come from waiting around for someone else to provide it for me. I can serve to be an example of joy or misery to my kids and to those around me. I don't want to be the one being felt sorry for.
No Way.
So, I am vowing to be more authentic to who I am and who I am meant to be. Yes, it's going to be scary, but it's better than the alternative.
No Way.
So, I am vowing to be more authentic to who I am and who I am meant to be. Yes, it's going to be scary, but it's better than the alternative.
2 comments:
Sandra, it's interesting that you posted this today. Only a couple hours ago I read a post called ~ "When was the last time you did something for the First Time." This definitely applies here.
The way our brains work - is it is easier to reinforce existing synaptic connections than create entirely new ones. "Thus living your life like Groundhog Day." It's easier to just do the same thing over and over, even if it's as mundane as driving the same route to work every. "Doing things differently, let alone doing different things is hard.
For most, change is hard ... and for some terrifying! But change is also exhilarating. And isn't that what life is all about. And even more ~ isn't that what you want to convey to your children, as you so accurately say Sandra.
"Just because you live doesn't mean you're alive." ~ (Nicki Minaj) So today ... go out and do something for the first time!
I completely appreciate your comments on this. Thanks for reading and doing so! It's interesting to think about it being from a physical level in our brains as well as the fear and emotion surrounding certain experiences.
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